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I"m judgmental, you"re judgmental healing our condemning attitudes by Terry D. Cooper

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Published by Paulist Press in New York .
Written in English

Subjects:

  • Judgment -- Religious aspects -- Christianity.,
  • Authoritarianism (Personality trait) -- Religious aspects -- Christianity.

Book details:

Edition Notes

Includes bibliographical references (p. 70-71).

Other titlesI am judgemental, your are judgemental
StatementTerry D. Cooper.
Classifications
LC ClassificationsBV4597.54 .C66 1999
The Physical Object
Paginationv, 71 p. :
Number of Pages71
ID Numbers
Open LibraryOL32593M
ISBN 100809138700
LC Control Number99014353
OCLC/WorldCa40979820

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ISBN: OCLC Number: Description: v, 71 pages: illustrations ; 22 cm: Other Titles: I am judgemental, your are judgemental. I'M JUDGMENTAL, YOU'RE JUDGMENTAL Terry Cooper I AM REVEALED B. Childress J UST WHEN WE THINK WE'RE NOT JUDGMENTAL For quite some time, I have been interested in exploring the topic of judgmentalism as long as it dealt with other people's judgmental tendencies. I've been quick to spot in other people the rigid, authoritarian attitude and statements. But the reality is that such behaviors are rooted in the unconscious mind. In other words, we are completely unaware that such drives are at the core of our judgmental tendencies; they are lurking beneath the surface. 13 Signs You’re a Judgmental Person. Here are some signs to look out for: 1. You believe that everyone is out to get you. 2. You also become less judgmental when you don’t judge a book by its cover. Don’t make assumptions about people based solely on what you see. You have no idea whether someone has had a bad day or received some bad news, so don’t be quick to judge their tardiness or attitude prematurely. Sometimes, a person’s negative behavior has reason.

Well, you’re free to think about that question but I’m not going to bore you with expanding on a rhetorical nuance. Instead, I have something different to say. As a responsible human being, we only have two options if we don’t want to be judgemental anymore. The first. Teach them what you know. I am judgmental of a person who draws a good salary, is expected to perform in a way that brings success to themselves and their employer (s) and the person does enough to “get by”, and then spends time sleeping at their mother’s or watching soaps all afternoon at their mothers. Saying “you’re judgmental” can be a symptom of being judgmental. We should all try to avoid being judgmental. However, when people say, "You are so judgmental," they need to think hard about. And when you’re good at being good, you get good at judging all the not-so-good people. And as you may have noticed, judgmental people come across as dismissive and angry. Having spent too many years in that camp, I can tell you why. But this needs to stay in the room: Judgmental .

The difference between judging and being judgmental. At the time, I rationalized my judgmentalness with an argument something like this: “The truth is what matters most, especially in school. I’m just pointing out the truth!” I thought of myself as a dispassionate judge simply setting the record straight. Seldom do we stop and think, however, whether we should really be exhibiting judgment at all. The fact is, for some of people, the issuing of judgments crosses the line from a necessity of life to a recreational sport. When that happens, you're no longer merely issuing helpful (or unhelpful) opinions—you've become an overly judgmental person. To value someone only on their faults and to attach everything they say or do to that negative stigma to define them as a person is being too judgmental. 7. You are disgusted with people who disagree with you. Deciding that anyone who has an opinion different from your own is stupid, that’s probably a good sign that you’re too judgmental. Because judgmental attitudes can often start from a place of caring or from a passion for certain values, you might not even realize just how judgmental you’re being. This is why, the FIRST thing you need to do is to start paying attention to the behavior, noticing when you act judgmental, and looking for patterns.